sometimes i wonder. i guess there are many things in life that we regret. and the older we are, the more there seem to be, no matter how much we tell ourselves that we won't make any more mistakes, we would.

one of those ice breakers i learnt was from a small book called book of questions. in it, there are many questions - some mundane, some deeply personal, some provoking. one of the questions that i like to ask is : if there is one single event in life you want to undo, what will it be. rather straight forward question, no?

how would changing one event change our entire life? well, if you have watched sliding doors, run lola run or il mare - you would realise that just missing a train, or slowing down a second or two, can result in a totally different outcome in our lives, and in other people's lives. a lot of our existence is based on chance. (though i think chance and fate are one and the same... but i'll discuss that another time)

but then there are pivotal decisions in our lives that will definitely shape the future - choosing the school we want to study in, choosing the course we are studying, choosing our careers - these decisions will define who we become.

but is pondering on the what-ifs, the could-have-beens really good for us? yes, we would benefit from hindsight and retrospection if we learn from our experiences. but to dwell on the decisions made in the past, thinking of what might have been different is, to put it bluntly, a bloody waste of time.
i haven't seen a time machine as yet. and really, if there is one, it'll probably screw up the entire universe.

i have learnt this - that there is very often no right and wrong decisions - we just have to make the decision based on the best of our knowledge and work hard to make sure it is the right one.